Divorce is a strange entity.
Prior to the filing of a divorce, a parent has unfettered access to their children.
The idea that such access may be curtailed in any way is very disconcerting for a great number of people involved in divorce. But that is exactly what happens in a divorce. Parenting time is scheduled.
By the time the process is complete, the new family paradigm has often become routine. Moreover, most parties can work with one another when there needs to be flexibility in the parenting schedule. The beginning of the divorce process, however, can be a frightening experience, especially when motions for temporary orders – where the initial schedule will be established – are going to be argued.
It is at this stage that compassionate candor with the client is essential, but can be tricky to deliver. Many clients in this stage of the process recoil at the thought of losing any access to their children, losing control over their own family dynamic, and at the prospect of divorce itself.
Some clients have a more difficult time digesting the situation than others. Universally, they are seeking counsel and advice. I have found that honesty is the best policy, even if it isn’t what the client really wants to hear. While no-one can predict the outcome of a hearing, an experienced attorney should be able to provide realistic guidance and manage client expectations as to what the probate and family court is, and is not, likely to deliver.
I have been thanked for my candor by many clients, and intend to go on telling my client what they need to know, and not necessarily what they want to hear.
If I can help you with a family law case as an attorney or mediator, please contact me at 978-877-5159.